Comments on: The clingy hormone: why it is scientifically impossible to have detached sex. http://www.thegenderdynamic.com/2009/07/24/science-and-psych/the-clingy-hormone-why-it-is-scientifically-impossible-to-have-detached-sex/ All about men, women and relationships Fri, 13 Nov 2009 16:18:14 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 By: yojohnny! http://www.thegenderdynamic.com/2009/07/24/science-and-psych/the-clingy-hormone-why-it-is-scientifically-impossible-to-have-detached-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-14 yojohnny! Fri, 11 Sep 2009 01:34:53 +0000 http://www.thegenderdynamic.com/?p=213#comment-14 This will sound crude, and it is, but a friend of mine said: "If you have sex with a female enough times they are eventually going to fall in love with you" Surely not, i thought? surely women are as, if not more, discriminating than men in choosing their partners? Sure, a one night stand might be easy enough for a female, but this article/blog implies that my friend's theory is correct? If it is correct, it makes me shudder. It makes me think that my past girlfriends havent really liked me at all and just got addicted to my smell! This will sound crude, and it is, but a friend of mine said:

“If you have sex with a female enough times they are eventually going to fall in love with you”

Surely not, i thought? surely women are as, if not more, discriminating than men in choosing their partners? Sure, a one night stand might be easy enough for a female, but this article/blog implies that my friend’s theory is correct? If it is correct, it makes me shudder. It makes me think that my past girlfriends havent really liked me at all and just got addicted to my smell!

]]> By: The Gender Dynamic http://www.thegenderdynamic.com/2009/07/24/science-and-psych/the-clingy-hormone-why-it-is-scientifically-impossible-to-have-detached-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-9 The Gender Dynamic Wed, 29 Jul 2009 11:04:39 +0000 http://www.thegenderdynamic.com/?p=213#comment-9 To address all aspects of sex would be impossible but thanks for your thoughts. It is certainly true that both men and women experience a rush of serotonin and dopamine during orgasm, which muddies their judgment. It is also true that many women are looking for companionship regardless of the source and will have sex with a drop-kick knowing he is a drop kick. I also agree that casual sex might be a form of compromise for both people. However, the higher levels of estrogen in women cannot be disputed and the purpose of my post was to encourage women to be aware of their bodies and hormones so they can make wiser decisions about their sexual partners. If women are able to pre-empt the (sometimes unexplainable) sense of longing or “addiction” experienced after sex, a sense of longing that is linked to the maternal instinct, then perhaps they will be able to control their behaviour more successfully or at least understand themselves better. To address all aspects of sex would be impossible but thanks for your thoughts. It is certainly true that both men and women experience a rush of serotonin and dopamine during orgasm, which muddies their judgment. It is also true that many women are looking for companionship regardless of the source and will have sex with a drop-kick knowing he is a drop kick. I also agree that casual sex might be a form of compromise for both people. However, the higher levels of estrogen in women cannot be disputed and the purpose of my post was to encourage women to be aware of their bodies and hormones so they can make wiser decisions about their sexual partners. If women are able to pre-empt the (sometimes unexplainable) sense of longing or “addiction” experienced after sex, a sense of longing that is linked to the maternal instinct, then perhaps they will be able to control their behaviour more successfully or at least understand themselves better.

]]> By: bemused http://www.thegenderdynamic.com/2009/07/24/science-and-psych/the-clingy-hormone-why-it-is-scientifically-impossible-to-have-detached-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-7 bemused Wed, 29 Jul 2009 07:02:08 +0000 http://www.thegenderdynamic.com/?p=213#comment-7 While I feel that you may of placed a few interesting points on your article, I feel it is greatly simplified, especially the bio chemical aspect. It is also exceedingly more complex on a psychological manner, where various factors are involved that you clearly decided not to mention. Might I add that men also receive levels of Serotonin and Dopamine during orgasm, a "feel good, hypothalamus related neuro-chemical drug", yet I don't see the title "Why it's impossible for both genders to have casual sex" and clearly that seems obvious, it happens frequently. Might I state that it might be that a woman is looking for affection and compassion in a lonely world, regardless of the sources intent, and not just "sniffing" oxytocin during sex. May I state that if you wish to make such a head grabbing title to an article, you might want to spend more time investigating the facts. While I feel that you may of placed a few interesting points on your article, I feel it is greatly simplified, especially the bio chemical aspect. It is also exceedingly more complex on a psychological manner, where various factors are involved that you clearly decided not to mention. Might I add that men also receive levels of Serotonin and Dopamine during orgasm, a “feel good, hypothalamus related neuro-chemical drug”, yet I don’t see the title “Why it’s impossible for both genders to have casual sex” and clearly that seems obvious, it happens frequently. Might I state that it might be that a woman is looking for affection and compassion in a lonely world, regardless of the sources intent, and not just “sniffing” oxytocin during sex. May I state that if you wish to make such a head grabbing title to an article, you might want to spend more time investigating the facts.

]]> By: How I Lost 30 Pounds in 30 Days Without Diet http://www.thegenderdynamic.com/2009/07/24/science-and-psych/the-clingy-hormone-why-it-is-scientifically-impossible-to-have-detached-sex/comment-page-1/#comment-5 How I Lost 30 Pounds in 30 Days Without Diet Fri, 24 Jul 2009 01:37:57 +0000 http://www.thegenderdynamic.com/?p=213#comment-5 Thanks for posting about this, I would love to read more about this topic. Thanks for posting about this, I would love to read more about this topic.

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